No one is left behind, everyone needs help
Moving into a home of your own may sound tempting and exciting. You may even need solitude if you want to take a breath and clear your thoughts. However, you should bear in mind and be prepared for the fact that becoming independent has its downsides as well. Sometimes empty walls and the lack of familiar noises can make you feel uneasy and lonely, and you may even become homesick.
It is good to be aware of the fact that everyone is sure to have these feelings at first before getting used to independent life. However, excessive solitude and the loneliness caused by it can be detrimental. It can cause effects such as isolation, lack of energy, despair, low self-esteem, social difficulties and a decrease in physical health.
Having a safety net is important in preventing loneliness. The safety net consists of people who can help you in a time of need. Your family, relatives, neighbours, authorities, friends and acquaintances can be a part of the safety net. It is important for everyone that there is at least one safe person in their safety net. You should introduce yourself to your neighbours so you can ask them for help when you need it. The sooner you ask for help, the better you will usually manage. But it is never too late to start preventing loneliness.
Being active is key. It is good to get moving and meet new people. The next step is to start interacting with new people. Operational groups (such as exercise groups) or conversation groups can be a good option in the beginning. You should utilise your strengths. Try asking someone you have just met: “Would you like to have a coffee / go see a movie / go for a picnic with me?”
Resources for those who need someone to talk to
MIELI Mental Health Finland provides crisis assistance and support in order to prevent mental health problems and suicides.
- Anonymous and free counselling available in person at MIELI Crisis Centre Helsinki
- Crisis Helpline: 09 2525 0116 Fri 9am-1pm
- List of local associations here
HelsinkiMissio Crisis Services for Youth
- Guidance and advice
- You can book a contact call on their website
- R3 is a support organization for young immigrants
- It offers a lot of free activities for young people
The Federation of Mother and child homes and Shelters
- A nationwide child welfare organization that helps children and families in difficult and insecure situations
- Shelters offer 24/7 advice and support to victims of domestic violence
- Supervised meetings and support for families
Finnish Red Cross Youth Shelters
- You can go to the youth shelter for the night if you are facing family problems, such as violence
- There are shelters for young people in Helsinki, Espoo, Vantaa, Turku and Tampere
- Support and guidance
- Contact details here